Friday, October 9, 2015

Is it impossible to have a 50/50 relationship?


The struggle is real people!  My lovely boyfriend and I communicate well.  We can talk about everything from philosophy to the consistency of our poop.  We strive for a 50/50 relationship with bills, chores, and general power. 
I do the laundry, he does the dishes. 
I pay for Netflix etc. and he pays for cable.    
I take him to the farmers market he picks the restaurant for dinner.
We have had problems with this!  I find it hard when the dishes start to pile up and he doesn’t seem to care. Both of us have been underemployed during this relationship and can’t pay our share.  He does not cook, and this drives me crazy.  When we first moved in together I would cry, “I’m not your fucking wife!”  I hate being stuck in the kitchen mostly because of gender stereotypes; yet it is actually an activity I enjoy. 
It’s a constant struggle to find a balance, to enjoy and love one another even if the dishes aren’t done.  I try to breath and reboot and remember all the times he has shown me mercy when I wasn’t holding up my end.
We also play with this dynamic in the bedroom.  I am dominate and he is submissive, not %100 of the time and no we do not have a sex dungeon.  We don’t have a safe word, no still means no… but I do tie him up and whip him.  This is still a 50/50 endeavor.  I think all sex should be!

I hope that in our relationship we get points for trying.  

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